Behind the Scenes from a recovering Perfectionist in month 4 of launching my own Business, and what’s coming up next in the Bold Babe Blog
Bold Babe sort of phoenix-ed out of me in the fall of 2017
after getting a divorce, leaving Microsoft, breaking my heart…
and, most critically,
confronting my own demons
and owning how I was creating my own circumstances
Bold Babe was who I needed to become
in order to free myself from self-imposed limits
that I used to feel in control
Things like perfectionism, procrastination, numbing out, blaming others and people pleasing
that were making me miserable and also impacting the people I loved
Bold Babe was a practice
That led me to shed old skin
Learned to 360 degree know and love who I really am (flaws and all)
and got excited about my ability to create a life that fit the real me
Since launching Bold Babe Collective
The most perfectly perfect, ironic and hilarious challenge
has been this comical start/stop battle between selves
An old circuit around being perfect and “safe”, while striving to embody and be BOLD
I mean HELLO, Bold Babe Collective?
I want to live the message
And, I would be on my ass as a new business owner
if I demanded perfect out of everything I create for BBC
There is just no room for the paralysis of “Perfect”
I had to start letting that shit go
I needed to take a very clear stand for who I am, what I’m about, and how I am here to help
Even amidst the fear of being judged
I had to do it for myself and for others searching for healing,
and it has been one of the biggest challenges and gifts of envisioning and launching BBC
I truly believe life delivers us the perfect storm of circumstances
To make us see, experience and grow in the exact ways we need to
In order to level up
And find our inner peace, power, and happy again
and do our part to restore those same things to the communities we touch (family, friends, coworkers)
It’s been a long journey,
And while I still sort of feel like little a stumbly Bambi learning how to walk,
it’s all about the practice
That’s what Bold Babe is really about
It’s a practice of getting back up when we fall,
and seeing ourselves as powerful, capable beings
It’s a practice of being willing to risk the uncertain,
and saying Yes to opportunities that excite your spirit even when you’re afraid
It’s a practice of saying No,
and setting boundaries that actually make things function better
It’s about being REAL,
instead of faking it or modifying yourself in fear of not being accepted
It’s about taking ownership of how you create your own circumstances,
And staying present to your every opportunity to shape your life to meet what you really value most
Being Bold is about having the willingness to risk the uncertain
To risk failing
In order to open new doors of possibility
and take ownership of the limits and standards that we accept for ourselves
So many people crave FREEDOM
But don’t see how they imprison themselves
Awareness + Boldness is your ticket out.
Awareness – knowledge or perception of a situation or fact.
Being aware is about waking up to the facts of your situation, and identifying your opportunity for new beliefs and actions
Boldness -willingness to take risks and act innovatively; confidence or courage.
Boldness is about intentionally risking changing your circumstances by taking new action
Boldness is relative
What you perceive requires courage is different from what I perceive requires courage
And it is also a target that changes over time
I get scared of going on Live video in the BBC Facebook group and looking like an idiot
You might be scared of asking your boss for something – time off, a raise, a new project, an office, a promotion
Or figuring out how to meet a life partner
It’s all about becoming AWARE of the truths – the true risk, the true reason you’ve been avoiding taking action
and owning our ability to move outside of our comfort zone, through BOLD courageous action
Boldness builds confidence with practice
And what was once scary moves to the rear view mirror
And it is so Fcking freeing.
So, for my fellow Perfectionistas out there
or anyone feeling STUCK in a life or situation that isn’t working for them anymore
Bold is your antidote
Because it’s about trusting, and letting go of control
Let yourself choose to be uncomfortable sometimes
as an opportunity for growth and expansion
Questions for you
Is there a re-occuring challenge that gets in the way of you being, enjoying or having all that you want in life?
If this challenge were literally being served up to you on PURPOSE, what would be the opportunity be to be bold and grow?
What keeps you from accepting the challenge?
What benefit do you receive by choosing not to be bold?
What are the consequences?
How Bold Babe helps Babes be Bold (Men are Babes, too!)
- Bold Life Coaching (1 on 1 mentorship)
- Facebook Community (online, free, this one is ladies only)
- Instagram (inspo)
1. Bold Life Coaching
Sometimes we reach that point where we feel stuck, and life just isn’t working for us anymore
It’s time to shed old skin
You deserve to LOVE your life, and not just tolerate it
Your time and energy are too precious to be wasted settling for a life that is anything less than a full expression of your gifted, radiant self
You don’t need to convince yourself (and others) that you are okay with a life that deep down doesn’t work for you
Bold Life Coaching helps clients build the personal power, freedom and confidence to create a life you are excited to wake up to
I help you embrace the most authentic and empowered version of yourself,
uncover what’s been holding you back,
and build a personal roadmap of mindset and habits that
make designing a life on your terms a daily joy
Are you a candidate for Bold Life Coaching?
It is REALLY hard to know what we are swimming in
How your world view, your mindset, your fears, your beliefs, your habits
All influence your experience
And how you can actually block yourself from having the life you want
If you’re sick of feeling like the life you want is out of reach,
you know in your gut that you could use some help
and you’re ready to be brave AF in trying new things
because that’s the only way anything every changes
you might be a good candidate for Bold Life Coaching
Trust your intuition.
I’m currently accepting applications for new clients and have 2 spots open.
Email me at email@example.com to get the ball rolling.
2. Get to your personal Next Level! Join the BBC Facebook tribe
Bold Babe Collective has a free private Facebook group for anyone ready to unleash their inner Bold Babe!
This group is high vibe but also keeping it real, not afraid to talk about the hard shit we’re Bold Babing our way through
3. Get inspired! Follow BBC Instagram
4. Connect with other BBs! Join the Bold Babe Meetup Group
Do you live in Seattle or plan to visit the area? Stay in the know on upcoming Bold Babe Events by joining theBold Babe Meetup group!
These are aimed to be some combination of: fun + adventure + creativity + connection + networking + real friendships + personal growth.
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Make sure you get access to all the juiciness. Next up –
How to Get out of your own Damn Way (so you can Stop Playing Small and have the Life you REALLY want)